At some point in your life, you’ve probably heard that you’re made up of the people closest to you. I didn’t realise just how true this was until I actually looked at the reasoning behind it.
The Right People
When I talk about the “right” people, I don’t mean that they’re perfect, similar to you or positive all of the time. The right people make you feel good about yourself. They support and inspire you to become your greatest version.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
If you spend time with people who put you down, drain your energy or complain all the time, you’re going to feel bad about yourself. But if you surround yourself with people who actually want the best for you, then you’ll end up feeling a lot happier.
The Deep Stuff
We project ourselves onto others. For example, if someone belittles one of your ideas, what’s actually happening is they’re projecting the negative thoughts that they have about themselves onto you. All they’re doing is transferring negative energy to you and making you feel discouraged.
The next time you’re with someone, ask yourself: how does this person make me feel?
This is so important because our feelings are directly related to our thoughts. Naturally, when you feel bad, you think negatively too.
Think of each thought as a seed of life.
Our thoughts determine which energy frequency we resonate on. They literally create our reality. Whether you realise it or not, your life as it is right now has been created by your thoughts. So negative thoughts are extremely dangerous to us. They prevent us from living an abundant life.
This is why we should selectively choose our friends.
People who act negatively towards us cause us to have negative thoughts which actually drags us down to a lower energy frequency. On the other hand, people with an open-minded positive attitude help us to resonate on a higher frequency which attracts good things into our life.
I know that this is true, because I’ve seen my life from both sides of the spectrum. I used to be closest with people who simply weren’t good for me. Honestly, their lives were chaotic. They always projected their negativity onto me, and it left me feeling so worn out.
Don’t get me wrong. I am glad that I was friends with them, and it’s not like they were bad people. I just had to be honest with myself. They were hurting me rather than helping me, so I had two choices.
I could either ignore it and continue subjecting myself to negativity on a regular basis, or I could take the step towards a more peaceful life. Looking back, I couldn’t be more glad to have chosen the second option.
I began focusing on those who complimented, encouraged and inspired me. Honestly, it was life-changing. I felt so much lighter. I ended up meeting really amazing people, and my life hasn’t stopped getting better since. That’s why I’m a lot more mindful of who I spend my time with, and you should be too.
How to Weed Out the Wrong People
Be honest with yourself. I know how easy it is to be in denial. After all, no one wants to admit that someone they love is actually toxic to their life. The next time you’re with someone, honestly ask yourself: is this person making me feel good or bad about myself? Once you actually acknowledge the truth, it’ll be a lot easier to make a choice.
Be selective of who you surround yourself with. Especially if you’re not in a good place. Does it mean that you’ll have less friends? Probably. But it’s more harmful if you let negative energy into your life. Choosing to surround yourself with even a few friends who inspire you and support you 100% will change your life for the better.
Of course, sometimes this is difficult. We can’t avoid negative people all the time. For example, if we’re at uni or work. What I do to stop them from affecting me is to ignore any negativity as soon as I detect it. My attention switches off and I purposely think of something else. This way, I don’t allow them to affect my thoughts.
Never apologise for your authenticity. Nowadays, people are so quick to fit each other inside a box of what is normal. I don’t blame society for this either. It’s the result of propaganda in order to control us, a whole other story… A lot of negativity stems from judging others based on what we think is normal. The truth is, there’s no such thing as normal or abnormal. That’s just something we’re made to believe. Although every living being is connected, every one of those is also original. Each individual has their own strengths and weaknesses. Each person loves to do different things. They come up with different ideas. They’re creative in their own unique way.
There will always be people who don’t support you, because it doesn’t fit into their picture of what is normal. Don’t allow these people to make you feel like your ideas are wrong. It’s simply not true. Embrace your authenticity and leave behind anyone who doesn’t appreciate it.
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